Oh you want me to explain... just what I was hoping for!
Side note, going to take a guess that my hit counter will jump about 100 fold because I used the word porn in the title. That's kind of sad.
Anyhow. Here're some of the dangers of online chat:
- It can create a false sense of the other/self. Any time editing/airbrushing is allowed or possible, it creates something that's not entirely true. Those blemishes, imperfections, and inhibitions which we have in real-time, real-life, are way less present in online chats (and porn). The real thing has no backspace or edit button...
- It can create a false sense of intimacy. Because inhibitions are lower (because you're not face-to-face and don't have to deal with the social awkwardness in the real), it's far easier to share deep personal things than it is when you're actually around another real person who will respond verbally, physically, emotionally/expressively, and sometimes inappropriately.
- Because it's non-verbal, you get (to a certain degree) to determine what the other person is thinking or feeling (although emoticons help out a little bit). For example, person A and person B are chatting. Person A is sharing something deeply personal and troubling. Person B takes forever to respond, so person A assumes that they are weeping alongside them, praying for them, and scouring the Internet for words of comfort from some dead poet. Reality is, person B has just noticed that LOST has come on, and they've gotten so sucked into the plot that they have missed everything that person A has just said in the process of trying to figure out whether Juliet lives or dies. Person A is getting their emotional fix, person B is absent. You get to create the response and read the emotion into it.
- staying in touch with a lot of folks that I wouldn't otherwise be able to (out of state-ers, out of country-ers, folks travelling on the international space station, etc.)
- a non-awkward way to get to know cool strangers better
- touching base quickly about something; as such, it's very convenient
- telling someone you care about them, instantaneously, while they're doing other things
- allowing real communication for folks or in areas where inhibitions are otherwise high
And bring it into the real. It's messier, but it's far more rewarding.
I'm done preaching now.
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